Moving Forward In Strength....
This is not a post about my life, although I will use part of my story to encourage those who are going through life changes to find their own courage.
Looking back at the last 36 months, I moved to a new state, helped my son transition to college, & ended a toxic relationship." I have stumbled a few times and I have fallen harder than I wanted to, but each time I have gotten up stronger and better than the time before.
I know too many people struggling with their own life challenges and wanted to share some of the things I have accepted about my life to encourage others to accept their own.
1. Life Can Be Difficult.
We don’t always realize it when we are young. As we get older, we realize that not everyone is going to accept us for who we are, and those who you think will support you don’t always come through. It’s easy to want to throw in the towel or believe that our life is difficult because other people are making it hard on us. I refuse to accept this type of thinking.
Yes, life is difficult. The best thing you can do is keep working on yourself. Trying to change others is not your job and can drive you crazy. Focus on you and what you want for your life, and amazing things will happen.
2. Some Days Are Just Ok.
It’s perfectly acceptable to have a bad day and make mistakes. Own them when you make them. If you need to cry, then do it. Don’t feel ungrateful for your life because you need to release frustration that's bogging you down. The more I have accepted that sometimes I just am not going to get it right, the more comfortable I have become in my skin.
3. Your Body Is Your Compass
Your body can be your own pendulum and your body can tell you when something is wrong. In my case, it showed up as severe abdominal pain and 268 lbs caused from stress, work, toxic relationships, partnerships, and friendships. It required the event of Covid-19 which allowed me to isolate, spend time with nature, spend time with myself and heal. Which resulted in 130 lbs of weight loss.
During these times, look for your real friends and hold onto them. Show them gratitude for understanding that you can’t go out and be the “fun” person they want you to be. Be grateful for those that understand and patient with those who are not.
4. Ending A Toxic Relationship is difficult, but it's not the end of the world.
Don’t forget to support yourself! Take a long weekend and go relax. If you are staying home, plan a nice weekend inside. Rent movies and do things you enjoy. Don’t get wrapped up in memories that no longer serve you! Show compassion to YOURSELF when you are angry and keep telling YOURSELF that you love you.
Failure is part of life. Accept it and figure out the areas you can succeed.
5. Don’t be afraid to take risks.
I have found that the best time to take a risk is when I am at my lowest. I have nothing to lose at that time, so I go for it. In my case, I started a new venture. I'm excited about where it will lead and really enjoy the people I have already met as a result of branching out into a new world. Change, whether it is good or bad, is scary. I know that and accept it. The less you fight your fear of failure, the more energy you have for success.
Last weekend, I decided it was time to conquer a fear of mine I have been carrying for 4 months, a failed event! I put my heart, soul, and finances into this event and it failed! There were payments that I would never get back and there were refunds due that I'm still responsible for. I knew that I couldn't stay in my shell, "hoping" things would resolve itself. I had to get back in the saddle and be my authentic self!
For those of you in fear of someone seeing you fail, it's ok! Get back up and keep going! Give gratitude and grace to those that understand. Don’t forget to breathe and when you succeed, look down the mountain you conquered and smile.
Tonya Danee' is an Intuitive Business Strategist, Wellness Guide, & Empowerment Speaker! I offer personal & professional self-development programs.
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